The husband was the one who brought the case
He said he was suspecting his wife of cheating on him with a pastor
He said it wasn’t the first time
He said his wife had cheated on him several times even before they got married but he always forgave her
He said the trend continued even after they had gotten married
The husband said he had made up his mind to divorce the wife
Enough was enough
But his wife was six months pregnant and he was sure the child was his
So he approached his wife’s father and told him what was going on
He said his wife’s father and the pastor were from the same village and his wife’s father called him the following day saying
“If you divorce her, you forfeit your baby”
They had been trying to have a child for five years and they had spent a lot of money trying out many procedures to
have a baby
He said he couldn’t forfeit his child
His wife’s father told him the pastor said he would fly his wife abroad and adopt the baby as his own should he proceed with his divorce threat
At this point, he began to sob
I waited for a little while, unsure if stopping him from crying or leaving him to cry would be the best for him
Dealing with a cheating spouse is a tough ordeal
Dealing with a cheating spouse whose cheating partner was a powerful and influential man or woman was a nightmare
You could lose more than your wife and child
You could find yourself in big trouble
You could lose your life!
Uriah didn’t know that the same hole he entered joyfully and legally as a husband would end up being the trap door that would lead to his death
When a powerful man is interested in your wife, your right and voice could be trampled and stifled at will
And if God does not fight for you
You may never get justice
I waited for about ten minutes
He gathered himself
He was a strong man
He apologized for breaking down
So I asked him how he met his wife and why he willingly married a cheat
He nodded and shook his head at the same time
It had been a tough day for him
He said he was serving as an apprentice at a very popular market in the East when he met his wife
He said his wife was a secondary school student at the time
He asked her out around the Christmas season
She agreed to date him after the new year
He said from that point he took over her academic training
He said such practice is common in the part of the country where they both hail from
He said she was in 200 Level in the University when she cheated on him for the first time
He went to check up on her school one weekend and discovered that she was not living in the female hostel he paid for
When he got there, they told him she had moved out
Eventually, someone told him she was living with a guy off campus
He stayed in a hotel that night
The next morning, just as he was about to set out for the address he was given, she arrived at the hotel
She told him some of her friends told her he lodged in the hotel
He asked her why she moved out of the female hostel
She said she couldn’t get a bed space by the time he sent her money for rent
She said she rented a room off campus
He said she should take him to her room
She said she had roommates and none of them brought their boyfriends to the room as a policy
He said for every argument he pushed to know where she was staying, she had a counter-argument
Eventually, he gave up on the issue
He took her to his room in the hotel and gave her the things he bought for her
Later that evening, she left
He told her he would leave first thing in the morning
He waited until it was 9pm
He left the hotel and traced the address he was given He got there around 10 pm
He met them, his babe and her campus lover, making love
His babe had simply pocketed the money he sent her to rent a room and moved in with her campus boyfriend
He was the one trespassing as it were
He said he knocked on the door and ensured his babe and her lover were aware that he knew what was going on
After that he walked away
To him, three years of investment had gone down the drain
When he got home he told his parents what he happened
His mother told him to be matured about it
He was 28 and she was 19
“19-year-olds make mistakes all the time
She will soon arrive here in tears, begging” said his mother
True to his mother’s words, she arrived at his house the following weekend
She was in tears
She said it was the devil
She had no other sponsor
She was saving the money he gave her so that she wouldn’t be asking him for money all the time
She showed him her bank account’s balance
She had all the money saved
She said she was not thinking clearly
She begged him until he was embarrassed
He forgave her and instructed her to get her own apartment and never to see the campus lover again
She obeyed
He went to see her often and nothing was out of place until she went for her NYSC
He noticed that during the NYSC she played a lot of hide and seek game
He saw messages and emails that indicated that she was sleeping with someone else
He had convinced himself she was never coming to him when she suddenly showed up with her bags after the NYSC
He later discovered that the guy she was seeing also had a girlfriend at home and somehow the NYSC fling didn’t blossom into a real relationship
He called her and had a heart to heart talk with her
He told her he was willing to consider his investment in her as a gift to her and her family
He didn’t want her to see him as someone to rebel against
The pattern he had observed was not something he wanted to build his future around
He said she begged him and promised him she was ready to settle down and be his wife
He said he did everything to test her love and he found it to be very firm
They went ahead and got married
After the wedding, he discovered a lot of things
He discovered she had treated Sexually transmitted infection before
He also discovered she had gone through two abortions while she was in school
He stood by her in all the challenges they faced
When their marriage was two years, she cheated on him with one of her colleagues at work
He found out through one of their neighbors who took pictures of his wife and the guy having sex on their matrimonial bed while he was out of town
He sent her packing
Her family members and his got involved in the matter
The story became clumsy
His wife claimed the picture was photoshopped because his neighbour wanted to sleep with her and she rejected his overtures
It turned out there was some truth in his wife’s allegation against the neighbor
At the end of the day, he moved away from that house and they reconciled
He said she did it again when their marriage was four
She went one business trip with one of her bosses and somehow ended up sleeping with that one during the trip
It became messy as his wife’s boss’s wife found out and reported at the office
His wife and her boss had to face a disciplinary panel
They both lost their job and the affair became an open secret
He said he had given up on the marriage by that time
He moved into another room and vowed never to touch her again
She pleaded with him to let her stay in the house until she got another job
He agreed!
He said they were practically living together under the same room as strangers until one night in May 2018
He got home from work around 7pm and found her sleeping stark naked on the three-seater sofa in the sitting room
He said he hadn’t had sex in months and the sight of her nakedness stirred deep longings
He showered and went to his room but the sight had provoked him to the core
He went to her that night
They mended their ways afterward and decided to give their marriage another try
One month later, she was confirmed to be pregnant
They didn’t tell anybody about it
When she was five months pregnant and was already showing she went home to visit her parent
Her parent said their pastor came to their house earlier that month to pray and told them a sudden miracle will come into their home to visit them, when it comes, they should make sure they bring the miracle to him
That was how she followed her parents to their church to see the pastor
Two weeks later, she had started sleeping with the pastor
He said he noticed that she suddenly started acting suspiciously as she did the previous times
He had come to know the signs and pretended he didn’t see anything until he traced her to the hotel where she was meeting the pastor one evening
He had come to realize being married to her was a lost cause but he didn’t want his baby growing up with her
Whether the child was male or female he didn’t feel the child ought to be brought up by someone like her
He wanted his baby
He also wanted justice
A pastor ought to be a blessing to his home, not a fox
He wanted God to fight for him
I listened to his story carefully
Two days later, i met him and his wife
Her story wasn’t any different
She was sorry for sleeping with the pastor
She said it felt as if she was hypnotized
We prayed together
I was careful not to ask for anything that could be constituted as curses or negative
I have never walked contrary to the instruction of Jesus that a believer must bless always and not curse
About a week after i met with them
I was reading a book by Francine Rivers titled “Sons of Encouragement”
The author wrote about prophet Amos among her characters
She spoke about the sling and it’s importance in the tool kit of a shepherd especially in dealing with wolves, snakes, lions, bears and administering discipline among the sheep themselves
Suddenly the eye of my understanding was enlightened
I knew what to do
Two weeks later, the pastor climbed his last horse
The church member he was sleeping with at a hotel (A member of the choir) narrated the story in her statement to the police
They were having sex when the pastor suddenly stiffened and went limp
By the time they got help and rushed him to the hospital, he had lost the use of the left side of his body
completely
He was 49 years old when it happened
He was married with three children
His church scattered after the incidence (This event happened around Satellite town – Amukoko area of Lagos)
The lady delivered a baby boy a few months later
Her husband decided to forgive her and give the marriage another go She is pregnant with her second
baby at the moment
PS: Many believers think they can live irresponsibly under grace
This is very far from the truth
There is a provision for justice and discipline within the Messianic Community
I have seen it’s effectiveness as enforced by the Holy Spirit several times
Let us be careful not to abuse or frustrate the grace of God upon our lives
GSW’s notes: I was recently told of a pastor who has a crowd of worshippers all around him calling
him papa.
I was also told this papa liked to sleep with other people’s wives!
I was told he was sleeping with a particular married woman who was pregnant.
The husband has told me a story that made my ears tingle.
Just so that we can prove the consistency of the Word of God.
I will say this: I have seen the green tree cut into two equal halves vertically,
The branches of one were broken to pieces and thrown into the fire
The other dried up on the spot with it’s branches and fruits still on it.
The head of the Church has decided your case sir, That which was abused has been reassigned!
I write this as a witness to this verdict today 10/07/2020
Written By: Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo
Source: Click Here
What do you think about the story? As a christian can you be patient like the man?
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