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True Life Story: Popping Cherries

For four years, he waited

He waited in pain and agony

He waited in hope and trepidation

He waited in silence

Everybody told him it was the right thing to do in order to make heaven

His church pastor told him he cannot move on

His parents told him to have faith

They told him there is a God who restores

They told him to hold on

He had to

His wife eloped with a South African Pilot in 2015

She had been cheating on him with some other men on and off before then

He had no idea what was going on

Apparently, the reason the marriage dragged on for four years was because his wife hadn’t found the right person to jump ship for

She was a chartered accountant

He was a chartered accountant too

They met at a firm they were both hopeful of working at

He got the job, she didn’t

But they had become friends as they moved from one stage of the interview to the other

They both knew either of them would get the job but they couldn’t resist being friends

She was the gregarious type

He was the quiet and taciturn type

His social life was almost zero

Before he met his wife, he had only dated two other women

The first was a medical doctor who left him because he was too boring

The other was a music minister who loved him but couldn’t wait for him to finish his ICAN before moving on with another guy who loved her and was ready to get married

His wife practically fell on his lap

After he got the job, the friendship became serious

She told him she couldn’t do without him and he believed

Three months after he got the job, she moved in with him

He would later learn that she had accommodation issues and desperately needed somewhere to move to as her landlord had ejected her

She told him nothing like that

He came home from work one day and found her standing by the gate of his house

She said she wanted to pay him a surprise visit and also wanted to make sure he was a bachelor like he claimed

It was the second statement that made him conclude that she wanted a serious relationship with him

She stayed over that day

She cooked him dinner, drew his bath and did home engineering duties perfectly

He was very impressed

By the time she moved in, he was convinced without a doubt that she was the one

All the signs pointed to that fact

Nine months after he met her, he proposed and she said yes

They got married

The marriage was in his opinion very good until she got a job

She was employed by an airline where she had the opportunity of meeting many rich and influential people

She was a social wrung climber (Someone who attaches herself to people of a particular class in order to move up the social ladder into that class)

Before they met, she had dated her way upward

The reality of dating socially upward was not bad in itself until it becomes a serial habit

Sometime during their second year of marriage, his wife began to travel to South Africa frequently

She told him it was for work and he believed her

One day she left and she didn’t return home

When he contacted her office, he was told she had resigned

He later learned she was living with a pilot in South Africa

He didn’t see any sign

He didn’t suspect anything

He ran to her parents

They told him they had no hands in it

He ran to the church, his pastor said

He should keep praying

He ran to his parents, his parents said he should trust to hope

So he waited

They told him it was a trying time

They told him it was a perilous time

They told him it was a price he had to pay for his faith to be stronger

A year after she left, he traveled to South Africa

He wanted to see for himself what was going on

He had gotten her address from one of her close cousins

He wanted to know how to move on

He got to South Africa and booked a hotel close to her house

He planned to called her when he got there but he chickened out at the last minute

He really missed her but what would be the point of disrupting her life and causing trouble in a strange land

He didn’t know the kind of guy the pilot was

He didn’t think he should risk his life or getting physical injury over a woman even if she was his wife

He eventually summoned courage

He wrote a letter and went to her house

His plan was to drop the letter and wait for response

He had written his contact address (The hotel he was lodged in and phone numbers) in the letter

She was living in a very expensive apartment

The type that uses a doorman

Each flat had a pigeonhole downstairs where letters could be dropped

He explained to the doorman that he had a letter to deliver to the apartment

The doorman took the letter from him

He turned around to leave and saw her walking up the entrance stairs towards him

He called her name

She turned towards him, he saw the baby carrier on her shoulders and a baby in it

She looked at him, paused for a brief second to be sure she was not looking at an apparition and shook her head

Then she walked steadily into the apartment building

He just stood there…

After about three minutes, he left

He had all the answers he needed

She had moved on

Later that evening as he was waiting for the night to pass so that he can catch his flight back to Nigeria the next morning, his phone rang

He picked it

It was her

She said “What are you doing here?”

It was at that very moment that he remembered she told him she wanted to wait at least until she was thirty before she started trying to conceive

He agreed with her that they both had more than enough time to wait and sort things out before having children

His family was not the type to meddle into such details of his life

She was twenty-six years and seven days old when they got married

She was twenty-eight when he saw her again and she already had a baby

It means she just didn’t want to have children with him

He wasn’t the one

That was his conclusion

She just used him

He told her he was catching the first flight back to Nigeria the next day

He came for closure and he had gotten closure

She didn’t say anything else

There was a long silence and a click as she dropped the clock

He returned to Nigeria

He went to discuss with the pastor of his church

He just wanted to move on with his life

The pastor said he should pray that

God will judge his wife by killing her so that he can be set free to remarry

He said “Yes sir”

He stopped going to church the following week

He lied to the pastor that he was traveling to buy some time

As soon as his rent was due, he moved to another part of the city

He needed to restart his life

He read a story on gbengawemimo.com and reached out to the brother in Jeans and T-shirt

He wanted to be sure God will still love him if he met someone else and remarried

They had a long and fruitful discussion

They discussed religion and Jesus

The Bible stated categorically by the coming of Jesus that a people living in darkness has seen a great light!

The Bible was talking about the Jews

The JEWS were the people living in darkness

The Jews that had all the laws of Moses and all the prophets were described as living in darkness

Jesus was the great light

The law was sin and death and it saved nobody

If the law could save, Jesus wouldn’t have to come

Moses brought the law and categorically stated that the children of Israel must not marry foreigners

Then Moses himself married an Ethiopian woman

When his sister and brother protested, 

God took Moses’s side

Nobody can lose his or her salvation over domestic issues

Nowhere was such written or stated

Truth is, if you know the gospel and walk in its light, you will be able to see clearly why there is no marriage in heaven as Jesus stated We are spirit beings

Marriage is for mortals

Do the maths!

He was shocked to see the gospel explained so simply

If marriage can not give you eternal life, marriage cannot take eternal life from you

Eternal life is a gift from God to the whole world through Jesus Christ

Whosoever believes in the Lord

Jesus and confesses him shall be saved. Amen

Brother Godfrey met sister Roselyn on Christmas Day of 2019

He said he walked into a shop at the mall to pick some gifts for his parents, nephews and nieces when he saw her

She was the manager of the store (Not the owner)

He told her what he had in mind and while he sat down nursing a bottle of wine, she used her discretion to pick the gifts for him

He said it was as if she saw into his heart

The gifts were all perfect

They exchange numbers and started talking

He introduced her to the gospel

They both met with the Brother in Jeans and T-shirt and were baptized in the Holy Ghost

Sister Roselyn was an orphan who was raised by the church since the age of five

She had never seen or heard from the Holy Spirit before that encounter Things changed rapidly after as they both grew in the faith

On the 19th of June, 2020

Brother Godfrey proposed to Sister Roselyn

Sister Roselyn said “Yes”

On the 26th day of December 2020, Brother Godfrey and Sister Roselyn got married somewhere in Nigeria

Brother Godfrey said “Brother Gbenga, Thank you, sir. Please write my story!

Sister Roselyn said “Please write the story as our wedding present”

The joy bursting forth from the two of them cannot be contained Glory be to God

PS: Fear has failed as the reason to stay married. Fear can only bring torment
When I hear couples say “I am staying in this marriage because I want to make heaven” I just shake my head

Those who teach such rubbish are misrepresenting the word of God. We stay in our marriages because that is the right thing to do and we have been enabled to do that by the power of the Holy Spirit!

If we all exhibit the fruits of the spirit our homes would be heaven on earth. I recently spoke with a cheating 
husband who said “My wife is a  Christian, she is always praying and reading the Bible.

By the tenet of her religion she should forgive me such indiscretions. If she can’t forgive me and move on it means she is a hypocrite!” That is what a carnal interpretation of a spiritual reality does It perverts the truth and exchanges the eternal for the temporal. 

Religion binds people to darkness. Christ translate people from darkness to light. You have the right to walk in bondage or liberty.

You have the right to use your liberty as led by the Holy Spirit to frame your aeons and live out His plan for you. You can also abuse your liberty by living the wrong way and  you will reap the consequence in this world Your reality in Christ is up to you. Amen!

Happy Married life to Brother G and Sister R!

May your Home be a tree of  righteousness planted by the river of life.

Popping Cherries was written by Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo

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